Itâ€™s hard to make a life change. I know that sounds silly. Of course itâ€™s hard to make one.Â If it were easy, weâ€™d all be doing the very things we want to do, the things we were meant to do.
Iâ€™m not so sure actually experiencing the life change is as hard as accepting that you can do it. We have our daily routines and our life roles, and whether or not we chose them is beside the point. They are ours to do what we may with them. And itâ€™s easy to go through life being okay with it all. Okay with your daily routine, okay with the little choices you make that snowball into big ones, okay with what youâ€™re contributing to your community and the world, okay with the ho hum.
Until one day you realize itâ€™s not okay at all. Until one day you realize that there is more to life than what you are doing. And in dramatic flair you conclude that how you are living your life is slowly killing your joy.Â Because we all now there is a huge difference in momentary happiness and a state of joyful being. And so while you have moments of happiness, your times of joy are few and far between, and in the end you canâ€™t just be. Thereâ€™s so much more to life than being a cog in a wheel. So much more.
As I write this, in the midst of a career change, I think to myself that the hardest thing about it all isnâ€™t that actual change, but is giving myself permission to experience the change. Permission to let go. To let go of the idea that there is a certain way to live life and be a productive member of society. To let go of the idea that life is work. To let go of the idea that work is just for the greater good of someone elseâ€™s life.
With letting go of old beliefs comes accepting new beliefs. Believing that life is about feeling empowered and creating the life I want to live is the most empowering. Believing that work doesnâ€™t have to, and shouldnâ€™t feel like drudgery. Believing that itâ€™s not too late to become who wanted to be when you were little.
And hereâ€™s the deal. The only security we have is in ourselves. To be our own cheerleaders. To be our own bosses. To be our own joy seekers. To be our own advocates. To be who we always wanted to be.